The Challenger (ENTP)
Challengers are innovative, charming, and witty. Their quick and restless mental energy and enthusiasm about the future is contagious and attractive. Rebellious and brave, they aren't bound by rules and can be frequently found pushing the boundaries, challenging traditions, and blazing their own path. They've got humor, brains, and imagination. They may forget the little things in life, but their passion and excitement of the future make us realize those details don't matter much anyway.
dislike practical matters
great at starting but bad at finishing
breaking norms and rules
😍 Attracted By
soft and gentle
😡 Pet Peeves
kissing up to authority
🐥 Mating Call
If a Challenger has a crush on you, you can expect lots of jokes, flirtatious teasing, and intellectual debate. They'll focus their attention on you by asking questions and challenging your assumptions, and even teasing or trolling you in a friendly way. Typically tardy, they'll try oh so hard to show up on time when you're involved and keep the playful flirting going as long as possible. They will also want to take you to a quiet place, away from the noise and interruptions of other people, where they can get to know you. Their excitement and nerves will probably give away their interest in you.
😘 Flirting Tips
Do:-Be open to brainstorming sessions and theoretical discussions. They have many ideas, and they'll appreciate having a listening ear.-Tease them or even discipline them playfully for their jokes, teasing, or behavior. They're a bit naughty and like that they can count on you to ground them.-A bit of social awkwardness can be endearing if that's who you are.-Let them do most of the talking. Your relative quiet will be mysterious to them and leave their exploratory mind intrigued by wanting to know more about you.-Show them you're someone with depth and are not superficial. Lean toward ideas, thoughts, the future, and conversations reading in between the lines.-Listen attentively and respond thoughtfully. They love it when they can actually engage in an in-depth discussion.-Be flexible and willing to go along for an adventure or spontaneity. These are the moments they come alive the most.-Be soft and gentle. It will provoke their natural protective instinct.Don't:-Don't overreact or get offended by their jokes. They tend to be direct and don't mean harm. It comes naturally as a result of their tendency to push boundaries.-Don't be passive-aggressive, play games, or give the silent treatment. They'll find it exhausting and see it as an unnecessary attempt at what could have been directly and logically expressed.-Don't talk about commitments, plans, and your wedding in the early stages. The talk of sudden commitment will scare them off.-Don't try to control them.–Don't be overemotional. Try to handle things logically.-Don't try to be too possessive or jealous. They need to be social sometimes and dislike being cooped up for too long.-Don't expect them to do something just because it's expected by traditions or social conventions.
💍 Relationship Material
-Show interest in intellectual pursuits. They want their partners to grow with them, challenge them, and even show them new ways of thinking.-Show that you have your own principles and conviction, and can respectfully challenge them on their beliefs or ideas. They like having a sounding board for their thoughts, and appreciate it if you can hold your ground and even provide insight that focuses on or guides their own thinking-Accept them for who they are and don't try to make them conform to traditions or what society expects of them. They see rules as arbitrary and unnecessary constructs, especially those around social culture.-Show your loyalty and commitment to them. This will win their heart.
⚽ Likely Interests
🎁 Love Languages
1. Quality Time
2. Physical Touch
3. Words of Affirmation
4. Acts of Service
🧠 Love Philosophy
Dating a Challenger is an adventure, so bring an open mind, a sense of humor, and intellectual curiosity. They are generally enthusiastic, innovative, charming, and full of ideas. Their energy is alive and restless. They love a good intelligent discussion and enjoy brainstorming and theorizing about what the future could be. They love when their partners can genuinely engage in conversation with them and appreciate what they're talking about. They love partners who can contribute their own thoughts and ideas to a discussion to help them refine their own thinking on a topic. They also like people who are open about their needs and desires and won't resort to passive-aggressiveness.Challengers want to explore ideas, dreams, possibilities, and potential with their partner. They desire a companion who can explore with them, but also help them feel like they'll always have someone to ground them. Innovative, analytical, and energetic, Challengers love immersing themselves in concepts and ideas with their partner, questioning the status quo, defying norms, and exploring possibilities. They love a good debate and a partner who has their own insightful thoughts and opinions.What Challengers don't want is someone who will try to control them, force them to make commitments before they're ready, or stifle their ability to brainstorm and think about the future. They dislike and avoid traditions, rules, and norms and opt for newer, innovative ways to do things. Challengers are Thinking types and, while often charming, they can sometimes be insensitive and too blunt. This doesn't mean they don't care or that they're intentionally trying to be hurtful. A relationship where they are forced to do everything according to social customs, rules, or traditions will leave them feeling trapped and drained. They want to share fun, creative experiences with their partner, and it often requires being willing to take some risks and go out of your comfort zone.
🌹 Ideal Date
Challengers enjoy experiences and spontaneous adventures that allow them to be inspired, whether that's learning something new, going on an adventure, or having fun with a unique experience. The ideal date would involve conversation that opens their mind to new possibilities and ideas, and a partner open-minded to join along.
😱 Relationship Fear
Challengers are perpetually exploring, and they worry about settling down with someone only to find out they're missing out on new experiences and opportunities. Challengers are terrified of being trapped and want to keep their options open, finding comfort in the possibility there's always room for change and transformation.
🤞 Secret Desire
Enamored with novelty, change, and risk, there's a part of them that longs for something stable and secure. Challengers hate monotony, but in their unpredictable lifestyle and constant focus on the future, they sometimes find themselves craving the stable life filled with life's simple pleasures, like remembering to wear matching socks or enjoying the morning sunshine on a sunny day. They sometimes feel at odds with themselves, caught between their desire to explore and a desire for stability. They hope someday when they've explored all their ideas, they'll be able to quiet their mind enough to enjoy the present and experience this constant, stable lifestyle.
🤝 Friendship Philosophy
ENTPs seek out friends who sharpen them in all aspects. They appreciate people who have the fortitude to voice their honest opinions, even if they are refuted. Challengers measure friendship compatibility by engaging in arguments and discussions. It matters little whether others do not agree with them as long as they can stand their ground. These types don't take conflicts personally; they know how to relax and enjoy themselves while maintaining a level head. A glass of wine while discussing politics and other relevant social issues will likely pique their interests.
🧘 Personal Outlook
ENTPs are offbeat and individualistic. They are fine with bucking the norm if it means establishing their own legacy. Challengers are zealous and enjoyable contrarians who want to expose a different side of reality that most people miss. They're inclined to analyze social structures, urging others to engage in healthy verbal sparring.
🤙 Hanging Out
ENTPs do not mind being with a diverse group of individuals. Fun and quality time can look like attending intellectual lectures, hanging out in crowded pubs, or visiting a cultural museum. Challengers value learning, quality time, and meaningful conversations with their friends.
🗣 Communication Style
ENTPs are fluent and assertive communicators. They have quick minds and can think on their feet. Despite their eloquence, Challengers articulate their ideas in a way that everyone in the conversation can understand.
Common misconceptions about ENTPs include being arrogant and insensitive due to their contrarian nature. Challengers may be skilled at hiding their feelings with sardonic remarks and humor, but this does not mean they don't care about others at all. In reality, they care for those around them and actively think of ways to help.
Conflicts do not intimidate these well-versed personalities. In fact, they love being in the heat of negotiations and debates. Challengers use their wit and intuition to understand and connect to people. They use their talent for words to soothe hot heads and resolve issues by finding a middle ground that works for everyone.
Standing at 5'3", she worked at a variety of jobs, including a car saleswoman, personal assistant, flight attendant with Southwest Airlines and as one of the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders for two seasons in the early 1980s.
She lives in Los Angeles and is the founder of The Grateful Gardenia, a lifestyle blog and she is also a monthly contributor to Who What Wear.